Wedding Rings: finding the right fit (figuratively speaking)
Wedding rings are the timeless “I’m married!” symbol—small yet mighty pieces that represent your commitment to each other. But when it comes to choosing the ring, it can feel a little overwhelming. With so many styles, metals, and traditions to consider, how do you know you’re picking the one that’ll make your heart skip a beat every time you look at it? Or what about whether it’s even a good idea to wear your very shiny, expensive ring on the side of a mountain!
Choosing the right ring
1. The Tradition Behind the Band: A Circle Without End
Before we dive into metals and styles, let’s take a moment to appreciate what wedding rings symbolise. The circular shape represents eternity—no beginning and no end—symbolising your infinite commitment. It’s also worn on the “ring finger” of the left hand because ancient Egyptians believed that a vein in this finger ran straight to the heart. Whether or not you’re into that kind of romance, there’s something magical about knowing you’re carrying a piece of your partner’s love wherever you go. And with that fun fact out of the way, let’s get into it.
2. Metals and Materials: Gold, Platinum, and Beyond
When it comes to wedding ring materials, each one has a unique look, feel, and price tag. Here’s a quick rundown of popular options to help you find the right fit:
Gold: Classic and timeless, gold comes in yellow, white, and rose tones. Yellow gold has that traditional warmth, white gold feels modern and cool, and rose gold adds a romantic blush. Pro tip: the higher the karat, the softer the gold—so 18K may be best if you’re looking for something durable.
Platinum: This rare metal is prized for its durability and natural white shine. It’s hypoallergenic and doesn’t tarnish, making it perfect if you’re looking for something that’ll stand up to everyday wear.
Silver and Palladium: For a more budget-friendly choice, silver or palladium offers a similar look to platinum but at a fraction of the cost. They’re both beautiful, though slightly softer, so they may show wear over time.
Unique Materials: Looking for something different? Consider rings made of alternative materials like titanium, tungsten, or even wood. These materials give a unique look and can be a fun way to break tradition.
If you’re visiting Queenstown from abroad and don’t want to carry your ‘real’ rings with you, there are some great local vendors, such as Hannah + Marc who sell awesome temporary rings. These make for another great memento and are a unique way to take a bit of Aotearoa home with you.
3. Styles and Designs: Classic, Vintage, or Custom?
Wedding rings come in every style under the sun, so think about what feels like “you” as a couple. Here are a few popular options:
Classic Bands: If you want something timeless, a plain gold or platinum band is a classic choice that will never go out of style. Many couples love the simplicity and elegance of a classic band, especially if it’s engraved with something personal inside.
Diamond or Gemstone Bands: If a little sparkle is your style, opt for a band with diamonds or other precious stones. You can go for a full eternity band (stones all around) or a half band, which is equally stunning and more budget-friendly.
Vintage or Heirloom Rings: For couples who love the idea of “something old,” vintage rings are beautifully unique and often feature intricate details like filigree, milgrain, or engraving. Heirloom rings are also meaningful and can make you feel connected to family history.
Custom Designs: Want something that’s completely “you”? Work with a jeweler to design a custom ring that fits your style. This option is perfect if you have a unique design in mind or want to incorporate personal details, like a specific engraving or meaningful gemstones.
Tip: If one or both of you work with your hands, consider a low-profile design to avoid catching or scratching.
4. Matching or Unique? Finding the Right Fit for You Two
Here’s where the fun part really starts. Some couples love the look of matching rings—maybe it’s the same metal, style, or even an engraving that ties them together. Others prefer rings that reflect their individual tastes. No matter what, there are ways to have complementary rings that still feel cohesive.
Matching Bands: Classic matching bands are beautiful, and even small details like similar metal tones can make them feel unified.
Coordinated but Unique: Many couples choose rings that match in spirit but aren’t identical. For example, you might each choose a gold ring but pick different styles, like one with diamonds and one without.
Completely Unique: If you each have a different vision, go with it! It’s a way to celebrate both your individuality and the partnership you’re creating.
Tip: It’s your marriage, and it’s your ring! Don’t feel pressure to match unless it genuinely feels right for both of you.
5. Engravings: Add a Secret Message or Personal Touch
An engraving adds a layer of romance to your rings—a tiny message just for you. Some couples choose their wedding date, a meaningful quote, or even a word that sums up their relationship. Others go for a playful inside joke or even a short line from their vows.
Engraving Ideas:
Wedding date or “forever” date
Coordinates of where you met, got engaged, or will be married
“I love you,” in your language or another that’s special to you
A line from your song, poem, or vows
Tip: Keep it short and sweet—engravings are usually no more than 15-20 characters.
6. Shopping Together: Making It a Fun Part of Wedding Planning
Shopping for wedding rings is one of those rare planning tasks where you can just enjoy each other’s company without stressing about seating charts or colour schemes. Take time to try on different styles, explore metals, and experiment with customisations. It’s also a great chance to discuss your personal styles and preferences together, so there are no surprises.
Tip: Give yourself plenty of time! It’s worth taking the time to find the perfect rings, so aim to start the search at least two to three months before the wedding.
Final Thoughts: one ring to rule them all
At the end of the day, wedding rings are a symbol of your love, so choose something that feels right for you. From classic elegance to modern twists, there are endless ways to make your ring a unique reflection of your bond. And remember, your wedding ring will be with you through the years, a reminder of the day you said “I do” and all the love that comes with it.
With the right ring on your finger, you’ll have a little piece of forever to carry with you—through all the highs, lows, and everything in between.
